Teen and Young Adult Life Coaching | Kamini Wood, Certified Life Coach

Teen and Young Adult Life Coaching


 AuthenticMe® Teen and Young Adult

Are you concerned about your adolescent teen’s development? You may be noticing a once eager or successful young man or woman has begun to struggle. Perhaps you noticed their grades slipping, or that they’re losing interest in activities they used to enjoy. Adolescence is a crucial, formative time, which of course only adds to the pressure your young adults are feeling. And that pressure isn’t limited solely to them. You want to give your child the best shot at happiness and success, and navigating that path isn’t always as intuitive as a parent might wish.

Teenage years can feel like a bit of a minefield, especially for young women. For instance, is your teen struggling with body image and self-confidence issues? Maybe a sense of self-consciousness is even affecting her eating habits. She may feel worried that she’ll just never fit in anywhere. Moreover, she might be beginning to feel a little hopeless about her future, concerned that everyone around her has their lives mapped out, while she feels largely directionless. Is your daughter, like so many others, comparing herself to peers on social media and feeling like her life pales in comparison? Is your daughter having a difficult time maintaining her friendships or her relationships with her siblings? Maybe you’ve even noticed she’s not connecting with you the way she’s been able to in the past. Does she seem disinterested in, or defensive about, her future?

For young men, maybe he doesn’t fit the typical mold of what is considered “masculine.” He may not have an interest in sports, outdoor activities, or other hobbies that are frequently associated with males. Perhaps he has an interest in activities that tend to be considered “feminine,” such as the arts, and for that reason, he is being bullied by his peers. This likely causes you great concern because you want your son to discover who he is and own it with confidence, rather than see him bullied into becoming something he’s not. But maybe you don’t know how to help him.

Does he want to be “the man” but doesn’t realize that he is still technically a child? Perhaps your son wants to assert himself but hasn’t grasped that he still needs guidance and direction from the adults in his life. Or he may want to be seen as a sports star or a “go-to” guy and, therefore, might place a great deal of importance on athletics and social influence as part of his identity. Perhaps you are concerned about what could happen to his self-esteem if he doesn’t end up getting an athletic scholarship later on or isn’t as good at sports as perhaps, he’d like to be. Additionally, your son may struggle with peer pressure from friends who encourage him to try vaping, marijuana, or other drugs. Because boys tend to take bigger risks in an effort to be socially accepted, you might be concerned about his ability to stand up for his values.

Are you willing to work with someone who can help your child reach their full potential?

Struggling During Teen Years Is Very Common

Boys and girls both struggle with their identity, emotions, and endless causes of stress during this growth period—but in slightly different ways. Young men tend to compare themselves to others with regard to physical development, such as muscles and height. Physical activities are a common source of confidence and identity for males. But since not all boys develop physically at the same rate, those who do so later may experience stress and insecurity. At the same time, Boys who are athletic might place a great deal of pressure on themselves to perform well in that area. Any failures to live up to expectations can lead to a crisis of identity.

Also, when teen boys feel insecure or angry, they tend to either withdraw or act out physically. While teen girls are expected to be emotional, boys are often discouraged from or face stigma about expressing emotions and are pressured to be “strong,” even if they don’t always feel it. This pressure can be even worse for non-conforming boys who don’t share typical masculine traits or interests. What they lack in athletic ability or physical strength, they may try to make up for by bottling up negative emotions without any outlet for release. This phenomenon is sometimes referred to as “toxic masculinity,” and it can be damaging to a boy’s long-term emotional health.

As much as you love your son, you may not always have the right tools to handle these issues on their own. Life coaching for boys and young men can help your son become more comfortable with the emotional side. A life coach can also help him learn to find his own strength, no matter who he is or what his interests are.

For young women, puberty alone creates an onslaught of hormones and causes bodies to change at different rates, inviting comparison which can be damaging. Friendships can be fluid in a way that feels hurtful and beginning to write your own rules for romantic relationships is often emotionally draining.

Middle school, high school, and the early years of college are challenging socially and academically. The course-load in addition to the work itself become more demanding, with more riding on one’s success as each year passes. Insular pressures (“Will my parents be proud of my grades?”) give way to larger pressures with much heavier implications (“Will I be able to get into a good college?” or “What do I want to do with my life?”). Many life choices will be made in your daughter’s life between 12 and 19 years (college, relationships, relocating, first love, peer pressures, etc.). And whether they truly impact the course of her life, or she just feels like they will, it’s difficult terrain.

Today’s teenagers also have social media to complicate an already stressful time. These platforms can have a particularly damaging effect on young adults, with their identity becoming wrapped up in “likes” and “followers,” and the constant comparison to peers’ most flattering presentations of self.

This is all being grappled with by minds that are still learning and forming. So, it’s normal, if not expected, for teens to become overwhelmed. By extension, it’s very common for parents to feel concerned or incapable in the face of potentially erratic teenage behavior. Often when parents try to guide or engage their teens, it can escalate tensions rather than abate them. Parents will typically see a need, but ultimately feel unsure of how best to help their daughter. The good news is, there are ways to better understand and connect with your children. Working with a teen coach can help them to build confidence and communication so that they have what they need to grow, and you can encourage them to do so.

Life Coaching for Teens and Young Adults Can Empower Your Child To Feel Secure And Accomplished

Life coaching can provide truly effective ways to improve self-esteem and management of emotions in teens. The environment I provide for teens and young adults is warm and non-judgmental—and, above all, flexible. We’ll do whatever works best for them, whatever makes them feel most comfortable. We can meet in their school, my office, over the phone (so they can be relaxing in their room), or anywhere else they would feel most at ease.

In each session, we’ll tackle the issues with self-esteem, identity and communication by addressing emotions, mindset, behavior, and spirit. We may do an exercise called “happies and crappies” to address emotions, for example. This gives your child the opportunity to release emotions and thoughts about what’s making them feel good lately and what is having a negative impact. Similarly, for mindset, we will check in on their state of mind, and they can assess how they’re feeling, where their stress is, how their mood is, and what their energy level is like.

We’ll also work to recognize different behavior patterns, break them down, and come up with the most effective ways to handle stress. Finally, your child’s spirit will be addressed by allowing them some space to be quiet for a few moments to learn to connect with their intuition. Together, these practices will help your child recognize their strengths, values, and help them learn to own their identity with confidence. These are all crucial and powerful pieces to the puzzle of teen wellness.

The benefits of life coaching can be visible in every part of your child’s life. Academics can gradually improve as they learn to better manage their time and believe in their abilities. Relationships can heal and strengthen through their effective and succinct communication. They will learn how to build confidence and trust themselves as they become more in tune with their mindset and behavior patterns.

Through teen coaching sessions, your child can find their own unique voice and become empowered in ways that will carry them through the rest of the tumultuous young adult years. The benefits of life coaching for teens and young adults can be visible in every part of your child’s life, in that they can be visibly more confident, secure, and happy. In addition to my youth life coach certification, I have two sons of my own. I have an idea of how much you care for your children and want them to be confident and successful.

You May Be Interested In Life Coaching For Your Teen, But Still Feel Hesitant…

I would like my child to see a life coach, but I don't know if they'd be interested. 

I encourage you to trust your instincts as a parent and talk with your child about this option. They may have reservations, but that can be indicative of the sphere of fear that they’ve been operating within, which is preventing them from reaching their full potential. If you can gently encourage them to try something outside their comfort zone, it will likely be a great benefit to them.

I'm the parent, shouldn't I be able to guide them on my own?

The issues that your child may be experiencing are incredibly common and are not a reflection on your parenting. As the proverb goes, “it takes a village,” and having a 3rd (impartial) party come in to offer different perspectives is often just what a child may need. Working with a professional will also take some of the strain off your relationship so that you and your child can enjoy each other more.

This is a normal part of growing up, my child will toughen up and get through this.

Unmanaged emotions and stressors will only resurface later on in life. Giving your child the tools that they need now will not only help them navigate their teenage years but can empower them to be a productive and fulfilled adult.

Equip Your Teens With The Tools They Need To Be Confident And Successful

If you’re interested in life coaching for your teens and young adults, please click here to schedule a free 30-minute consultation.

“Life coaching and therapy are two different things. Kamini talked to me and helped me with issues that I was stressed about and struggling with. ”
— confidential client