A Breakup Trauma
A relationship breakup is always a stressful event. However, if you have recently got out of an unhealthy relationship with a controlling, emotionally detached, or abusive partner, you are likely to experience emotional trauma. The aftermath of a toxic relationship can take its toll on both your physical and emotional health.
To come to terms with the breakup and move on in life, you need to recognize and address the symptoms of emotional trauma.
How to Recognize Breakup Trauma?
After the toxic breakup, you may be overwhelmed by a mix of strong emotions such as hurt, sorrow, guilt, shame, and anger. In an attempt to deal with these intense negative emotions, you may withdraw from your family and friends, struggle with anxiety and depression, experience sleep problems, be easily irritated, and have angry outbursts.
Here are some of the most common signs that you are suffering from a breakup trauma.
1. You are Depressed
A breakup, even one of a toxic relationship is a sort of loss. It is normal, therefore, that the breakup causes feelings of sadness and grief. You may spend days in bed, neglecting basic needs and completely letting yourself go. You may be unable to concentrate on work, school, or other day-to-day tasks.
2. You Isolate Yourself
You avoid family and friends and turn down invitations for social events and gatherings. You are fatigued, and except from going to work or school, you cut off people and spend most of your time alone, avoiding social interactions.
3. You Have Sleep Problems
You experience either insomnia or you spend excessive time sleeping (particularly during a daytime). Also, you may have recurring nightmares and need medication to fall asleep at night.
4. You Have Flashbacks
Different smells, sounds, or situations suddenly trigger the abusive events of your relationship and generate feelings of grief, anger, and fear.
5. You are Overwhelmed by Different Feelings
One moment, you are full of rage at the abusive way your partner treated you, and at the next moment, you are washed away by shame or sadness.
6. You Blame Yourself
You tend to blame yourself for the failure of your toxic relationship, which only intensifies emotional trauma.
7. You Have Panic Attacks
You experience severe anxiety with panic attacks. You may experience abrupt episodes of strong fear and a sense of control loss. Panic attack episodes may involve feelings of weakness and dizziness, trembling or shaking, chilly sweat, increased heart rate, shortness of breath, hyperventilation, chest pain, or numbness in fingers and hands. You may also have thoughts of an upcoming catastrophe or suicidal thoughts.
How to Heal from a Breakup Trauma
Recognizing and addressing that you were in a toxic relationship is the first step towards healing from a breakup trauma. You will most likely need professional help to address post-traumatic feelings, reestablish your well-being, and get your life back on track. However, there are a few self-help strategies that can help you overcome a breakup trauma. These may involve methods such as positive affirmations, journaling, mindfulness meditation, gratitude practice, or self-compassion.