7 Tips for Letting Go of the Past and Releasing Your Trauma
The only way to go on with your life and find happiness is to let go of the things you’ve done wrong and the people who have hurt you.
Letting go of the past and releasing your trauma means freeing yourself from the emotional burden that keeps you stuck in life, preventing you from experiencing love, success, and happiness.
Holding On to the Past is a Detrimental Thing to Do
Rumination is a harmful habit that can lead to anxiety, depression, and other mental health issues. It involves repeatedly dwelling on past mistakes, heartaches, missed chances, and poor choices.
This can create resentment, negative self-beliefs, and emotional distress, resulting in reduced health, productivity, and the ability to form healthy relationships. Therefore, it is important to learn how to let go of the pain and suffering of the past in order to live a happier life.
How Our Past Can Hold Us Back (If We Let It)
Neuroscience research has shown that emotionally charged experiences, such as trauma, are more likely to be remembered and have longer-lasting effects on our mood, beliefs, health, relationships, and identity. If we don’t work through our trauma, it can lead to mental illness, self-limiting beliefs, and dysfunctional behavior later in life.
Our negative patterns of thinking and behavior can sometimes be traced to our upbringing and early childhood experiences, resulting in low self-esteem and mental health problems that can prevent us from achieving our goals and living the life we deserve.
7 Tips for Letting Go of the Past and Releasing Your Trauma
You must free yourself from the past because dwelling on past hurts and mistakes prevents you from focusing on the here and now and set realistic future goals.
Letting go of the past and moving on from trauma can be difficult. But it is possible. Here are seven tips to get you started.
1) Learn to Be in The Present
Mindfulness can help you stay present, gain clarity, become aware of your thoughts and feelings without judging them, and feel connected to the people and environment around you.
To achieve this, try concentrating on your breathing. First, take slow, deep breaths. Then, if your mind wanders, refocus your attention on your breathing.
2) Create New Healing Rituals
Starting new, positive rituals can be a great way to let go of the past and achieve balance and peace. Healing, purposeful routines that aid self-care can help you feel more comfortable in your skin, learn to treat yourself with more kindness and compassion, and appreciate the good things in your life.
So, consider the activities you want to practice daily, from meditating or journaling to taking a relaxing bath in the evening, and include them in your daily routine. Be fully present in these activities, savoring each smell, sight, movement, and sensation. Recognize that you have complete control over the new ritual, and thoroughly enjoy the experience.
Put in the time and energy. Your healing ritual may become transformative, allowing you to finally let go of the past and recover from trauma.
3) Talk About It with Someone
When it comes to releasing trauma, you must know that you don’t have to battle through it alone. Whether it is a family member, close friend, online support group, or therapist, reaching out to someone you trust can make you feel safe, heard, and appreciated.
Sharing your concerns and challenges with someone can also help you feel less stressed, anxious, and alone. However, it is essential to be honest about how you feel and how it’s affecting your life. This will help the other person understand what’s happening and give the best advice and support.
4) Find an Outlet
Finding an outlet for your thoughts and feelings is essential for mental and physical health. It can help you manage challenging situations, relax, and cope with painful memories. Find a hobby that brings a sense of calm and accomplishment, such as journaling, art, music, photography, cooking, or physical exercise.
This can help you unwind, feel accomplished, and process the events of the day, offering a break from disturbing thoughts and the stresses of daily life.
5) Learn How to Redirect Your Focus
If you are struggling with rumination and overthinking your past, learning how to redirect your focus can relieve disturbing thoughts and help you let go of them.
It takes time and effort to learn how to shift focus. Working with a life coach may help you learn how to refocus your attention, think more positively, develop better habits, and become more productive and satisfied with your life.
Journaling is essential to self-care that can help you healthily work through emotions. Writing about your experiences, thoughts, and feelings can provide a great outlet, connect you to your inner wisdom, and help you understand the roots of your problems.
7) Be Forgiving of Yourself (and Others)
No matter how forgiving yourself and others may seem, it is always worth the effort. The journey of self-forgiveness (and forgiveness) begins with accepting your shame, guilt, resentment, anger, and pain and learning to treat yourself and others with compassion.
Compassion and self-compassion can help you move from blaming to understanding and accepting yourself and others.
Not only will you feel better, but forgiveness will also help you strengthen your relationships and live a happier life.
Learning to Let Go Is Not Easy (But It Is Achievable)
The effects of traumatic experiences can be felt profoundly throughout our lives. But it can be empowering if we learn to deal with our feelings and let go of the past.
Seek help if forgiving yourself and others and releasing past pain feels overwhelming. A qualified and skilled coach can assist you in redefining your connection with the past, developing positive coping strategies, and learning to treat yourself and others with compassion.
If you want to learn how to let go of the past and release past trauma, contact me to set up a free empowering conversation.