5 Signs Someone Might Be a Spiritual Narcissist

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It is never simple to deal with a narcissist. These people are often deceptive and dominating, putting their own wants and needs first. They lack empathy and have an overinflated sense of their value. So, regardless of its type, a relationship with a narcissist may sap your energy, undermine your self-esteem, and harm your mental health and well-being.

But a relationship with a spiritual narcissist is on a whole other level.

What is a Spiritual Narcissist?

A spiritual narcissist is someone who uses their spirituality or religious beliefs as a means of gaining power, control, and admiration from others. They believe that they are more spiritually evolved than others and use this belief to justify their actions, even if it means hurting others.RELATED:Understanding Narcissistic Supply | Break the Cycle

Using Spirituality and Religion as an Excuse to Hurt Others

Narcissistic spiritual leaders have twisted, toxic faith and an inflated view of their own worth. They abuse their influence and power by inflicting spiritual harm on others.

Your narcissistic spiritualist, for example, may use spiritual wisdom to control and humiliate you rather than inspire and reassure you. Also, a religious narcissist might love-bomb you, shame you, try to control you, or make you feel afraid.

For example, your narcissistic partner might use their spiritual knowledge and authority as part of a love-bombing strategy to convince you that you are soulmates and meant to be together. The purpose of love bombing is to indebt you by convincing you that you owe the narcissist something for them to have power over you.

They may also use their spiritual expertise and authority to gaslight you until you start doubting yourself, questioning your reality, and losing your sense of identity and self-worth.

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5 Signs Someone Might Be a Spiritual Narcissist

A spiritual narcissist can be incredibly insidious and hard to recognize. Due to our stereotypes about spiritual leaders, we may believe that they are highly spiritual, wise, generous, and peaceful. You may not suspect your spiritual guru to be a narcissist because you expect them to be compassionate and do good things for others.

However, such stereotypes and beliefs can be highly deceptive. So, here are 5 signs that someone might be a spiritual narcissist.

1. They Hijack Conversations

The spiritual narcissist seeks to control every conversation, believing they always know best. So, they may intrude on your private talks with others by leveraging their power and expertise. They may hijack your conversations under the pretext of “assisting” or “supporting” you. But in truth, they lack empathy and are uninterested in exchanging ideas. 

When they injure you, the spiritual narcissist may use gaslighting to diminish your emotional reactions, rejecting them as irrelevant and sending the message that your perspective and feelings don’t matter. They may play the victim instead, accusing you of being ungrateful.

2. They Act as Though They Have Never Made Any Mistakes (But Criticize Others for Theirs)

Narcissists will never admit their own mistakes, rejecting accountability for everything they say or do. Instead, they blame others for their errors, making people around them feel bad about something they didn’t say or do.

They may have overly high expectations or make unreasonable demands all the time. So, no matter what you say or do, the spiritual narcissist will never be satisfied.

Because their practice of criticizing everything you say or do might make you feel defective all the time, you will go out of your way to satisfy the spiritual narcissist. This, however, is never the case since they will always find something to criticize and judge you for.

3. They Talk at You but Never Listen

Many people turn to their spiritual leaders for reassurance and support, expecting understanding, empathy, and trust.

However, spiritual narcissists are incapable of listening and providing genuine support. On the contrary, they enjoy being the center of attention, so they are usually loud and outspoken. Spiritual narcissists might be easily offended and angered if you don’t listen to them or follow their advice, making you feel bad for disregarding them.

4. They are Constantly Judging Others

In contrast to the compassion, forgiveness, and love they are meant to promote, spiritual narcissists constantly criticize and judge others. They bolster their own ego by degrading others. So, spiritual narcissists will use any chance to blame others for what they see as flaws.

5. They Manipulate Scripture to Justify Their Actions

A spiritual narcissist will profess love, kindness, and compassion yet never show it in their deeds. On the contrary, they will manipulate scripture to justify their toxic behavior and gaslight you into doubting your own knowledge and sanity.

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They will use scripture to prove their viewpoints while ignoring passages that contradict their ideas and points of view.

How to Deal with a Spiritual Narcissist

Dealing with a spiritual narcissist can be challenging, but some strategies can help. Here are a few tips:

  1. Set Boundaries: It’s important to establish clear boundaries with a spiritual narcissist. This may mean limiting your interactions with them or setting specific guidelines for how you will engage with them. Be firm but also respectful and compassionate.
  2. Don’t Engage in Their Drama: Spiritual narcissists thrive on drama and attention, so it’s important not to get drawn into their games. Instead, stay calm and detached, and don’t allow yourself to be emotionally manipulated.
  3. Focus on Your Own Spiritual Growth: Don’t allow a spiritual narcissist to distract you from your own spiritual path. Focus on your own growth and development, and don’t let their ego-driven behavior derail you.
  4. Seek Support: Dealing with a spiritual narcissist can be emotionally draining, so it’s important to have a support system in place. This may include friends, family, or a therapist who can provide guidance and help you stay grounded.
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Remember, dealing with a spiritual narcissist can be challenging, but it’s important to stay true to your own values and beliefs. Stay focused on your own growth and development, and don’t allow their behavior to derail you from your spiritual path.

Frequently Asked Questions

Are Spiritual And Religious Narcissists The Same?

While spiritual and religious narcissists share some similarities, they are not the same. Religious narcissists often use their religious beliefs to justify their actions, while spiritual narcissists tend to focus on their own spiritual growth and enlightenment.

However, both types of narcissists can be harmful and manipulative.

What Is the Spiritual Root of Narcissism?

Narcissism can result from a lack of connection to a higher power, a desire for control, trauma, or a distorted self-perception. Identifying and addressing the root cause is crucial to overcome it.

Does a Narcissist Believe in God?

Whether or not a narcissist believes in God or a higher power is not necessarily indicative of their narcissistic tendencies. Some narcissists may use their religious beliefs to justify their actions, while others may not believe in God at all. Focusing on the narcissistic behavior rather than the individual’s beliefs is important.

How Do You Overcome Spiritual Narcissism?

To overcome spiritual narcissism, one needs to engage in self-reflection and be open to change. Cultivating humility and empathy is crucial, as well as acknowledging that spiritual growth is a continuous process. Seeking guidance from a therapist or a spiritual leader can also be beneficial in overcoming narcissistic tendencies.

What Does the Bible Say About a Narcissist Spirit?

The Bible warns against pride and self-centeredness. Proverbs 16:18 cautions that “pride goes before destruction.” Philippians 2:3 encourages humility and prioritizing others before oneself. It’s important to approach the Bible with humility and self-reflection rather than using it to justify narcissistic behavior.

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